Thursday Two Questions #39-Coach Behaving Badly
Our soccer season is about to come to an end as far as games go, but then there is still try-out afterward. I had more than enough with the way JoJo's coach behaved. He is the bigger looser of a person that I've known for using the "F..." word with the kids, and is famous for foul language if we lost the game.
A few parents are planning to report him to the club president, and I personally just want to walk away. Another handful of parents said that the kids hearing bad language all the time, and they think it is ok for talking to these 12-13 years old boys that way.
For me, it is not appropriate for an adult, a respected coach, to talk trash to the children who look up at him for direction and learning to behave as a player and as a man later in life.
1) When a child misbehave, we take discipline and correct him/her, so what kind of discipline should we apply to an adult who acts like a spoiled brat?
2) Is it appropriate to use bad language to talk to pre-teen/teenage children even if they've heard them before?
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A few parents are planning to report him to the club president, and I personally just want to walk away. Another handful of parents said that the kids hearing bad language all the time, and they think it is ok for talking to these 12-13 years old boys that way.
For me, it is not appropriate for an adult, a respected coach, to talk trash to the children who look up at him for direction and learning to behave as a player and as a man later in life.
1) When a child misbehave, we take discipline and correct him/her, so what kind of discipline should we apply to an adult who acts like a spoiled brat?
2) Is it appropriate to use bad language to talk to pre-teen/teenage children even if they've heard them before?
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We don't encourage our children to swear that is why we... at least I, try not to swear. I spank before, made all the possible disciplinary actions, finally we got triumphant with talking and giving particular conditions. A good share BC.
ReplyDeleteIt's a shame that a coach would behave that way. It also sounds like poor sportsmanship if he is using foul language and ranting after a loss, that really sets a bad example for kids.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately adults who act like spoiled brats probably will never change. A person like that should not be working with children.
No, it is never appropriate. Adults should always try to set a good example.
Oh I get easily stressed with adults that behave like spoiled brats, frankly, I guess that is one of the reasons why I spend less time in Facebook now and do more blogging, I was really stressed out before by some who I never knew can leave comments or shouts in their wall sounding like spoiled brats or simply losing tact and behaving like superstars with all foul language. To answer your questions:
ReplyDelete1. I believe in our school district, if we say any foul language at all, we will be FIRED automatically for loss of decency and not representing the ideals of education. So, if he said those in front of kids cannot keep temper to himself, and during job assignment or responsibility, I believe he should not be exposed to kids, that is bad modeling. If not related to employment, I believe we can talk to them why those actions are not appropriate.
2. it's never appropriate to use bad language to kids even if they've heard it before. if ever we accidentally let it out, we have to apologize right away to kids or even to non-kids, and let them know we are sorry and it is not good at all!
1. I hear coaches do that all the time and it makes me crazy. By doing that I think the players lose respect for their coach, I know I would. I think coaches that use that language should be reprimanded and if it persists, they should be fired.
ReplyDelete2. It is never appropriate for anyone to use that language at all whether it be talking to teens or otherwise. It's degrading and shows lack of intelligence by the people that use the language.
I watched the movie Pulp Fiction the other night. It was the first time I'd seen it. I watched it online and within the first half hour I turned it off because of the foul language and violence. I can't believe people like that stuff.
Your photo is fantastic!!! As always.
wow, it is never appropriate for an adult to swear to children. ecspecially not an adult who is in an authority postion!!! as for what should happen to him? he should be fired and be told why he was fired. when the kids ask about it, they should be told that he was inappropriate in how he talked. lovely photo btw
ReplyDeleteIncidentally, Dani's football (soccer) coach also had some problems and the parents didn't like what was going on. Several people said they would take over the position, but now that he's quit, no one wants it.
ReplyDeleteI think adults should see consequences of their actions just like kids.
It's never okay to use foul language in the presence of kids. We never use foul language, so our kids have never heard that sort of thing out of our mouths. I would hate it if other adults are exposing them to that rubbish.
I think we all know what should be done, but how can we bring it to someone's attention without a cause for the after affects? If he isn't fired, he would still be around and that can't be good after he learned who told on him.
ReplyDeleteBad language should not be used in front of kids because they don't know well enough to know the language is to be used only when the situation calls for.
children needs guidance to understand what is acceptable behaviour. It is in no way alright for an adult to behave like this with children.
ReplyDelete1. I honestly think the mothers should come together and have a talk with him and if he doesn't take the chance to change his speech and attitude, then report him to the club
2. It is very inappropriate!
Although I'd probably like to discipline them the way I did with my kids - the TEACHER LOOK AND VOICE, I usually just ask them, "What point are you trying to make?" and hope that they re-examine how they are trying to get what they want.
ReplyDeleteI do not use bad language with children or adults.
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Jusifying bad language by saying they hear it everywhere anyway is just a copout because they don't want to deal with it. I've never spoken that way and don't like others speaking to me that way.
ReplyDelete1) I have no problem saying "Go sit in the corner" to my partner when he acts like a child!
ReplyDelete2) Not really appropriate, no.
A few years ago there was a boating incident where a man cursed a blue streak and someone on the water turned him in. The courts sided with complainant. Children and women are not to be subject to profane and blasphemous language.
ReplyDeleteI feel it extremely immature.I had a customer going through the cashier's line on the other side of the store one day using foul language and I asked him to curb his language out of respect for the other customers. I was working mgmt at the time. An off duty police office stood behind him and backed me up. YAY!