When Relationship Goes Bad
Almost three years ago, I wrote this article, Five Signs That Tell Your Relationship is Over based on how I felt, and experienced. I'm not one to gloat about how many views this article has received, or how much money it has earned me. However, I just know that this article is still circulating very strong, and I've received a number of requests through email for advices on when to throw in the towel.
However, I am not trained as an expert in relationship. I can only offer my own experiences as stepping stones for those that need a little road map.
Determine the stages of your relationship
Write down as many questions as you might have. The act of writing it out helps clarify your thinking, and gives you a concrete perspective.
The "ah-ha" moment for each person is different, and so is the endurance level. Some can take it for the rest of their lives, but some must break away in order to rebuild their lives. No one can tell the other what to do or when to throw in the towel. Only you can tell when the time is right.
Explore your heart and your mind. Take some steps to save your relationship, go to couple counseling, or family counseling, because it takes hard work to mend a broken relationship.
If you need additional reading materials on relationship, hop over to Anne's blog TheRelationshipSuperMarket.com to read her wonderful articles.
Do you have an "ah-ha" moment to share? I would love to know..
However, I am not trained as an expert in relationship. I can only offer my own experiences as stepping stones for those that need a little road map.
Determine the stages of your relationship
Write down as many questions as you might have. The act of writing it out helps clarify your thinking, and gives you a concrete perspective.
- Can this relationship be saved?
- Do I want to save it?
- What makes you happy?
- How many times has it happened in the past?
- How long did it takes before things slip back to the old mold?
- Can you both find a way to work things out?
- Are you both committed to a change for the better?
- What holds you back?
- What are your fears?
- What do you really want?
- How much longer can you take?
- Why are you unhappy?
The "ah-ha" moment for each person is different, and so is the endurance level. Some can take it for the rest of their lives, but some must break away in order to rebuild their lives. No one can tell the other what to do or when to throw in the towel. Only you can tell when the time is right.
Explore your heart and your mind. Take some steps to save your relationship, go to couple counseling, or family counseling, because it takes hard work to mend a broken relationship.
If you need additional reading materials on relationship, hop over to Anne's blog TheRelationshipSuperMarket.com to read her wonderful articles.
Do you have an "ah-ha" moment to share? I would love to know..
5 comments:
Naturally, when I saw the title of your article I popped over straight away to see what it was. This is my niche topic, so believe me when I say that this is a very useful and helpful article. I'm sure lots of people will benefit from it. (I know a lot have benefited from the older article you mentioned at the beginning).
Thanks so much for adding my link to your post. You're wonderful.
Icy, I second Anne's vote! You are wonderful! I saw the tweet you gave me, but you are wonderful for much more than that!!
Sometimes with a relationship the changes are subtle and kind of sneak up on you, then you look up and realize who sad you are. You have offered very good advice. Each of us have a different threshold and coping mechanism. My sanity is God, prayer, my children, friends, and writing. It is wrong to allow anyone to become your world. Suppose something happened to them - would your life cave in?
Take care & God bless.
A great article Icy. No "ah-ha" moments in my life concerning relationships. Just happiness.
This was a really great article, Icy. I think this advice is great for people who are having trouble in their relationships. I know a few people who could really benefit from reading this advice.
I have ahhah moments but not all are bad, they were just: i get it...kind of things. Good tips.
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