Practice Compassion Over Judgement
I’ve just read a poem on a very controversial issue of suicidal. The poem describes the feelings, questions, and tormenting thoughts of the after effect. It is a beautiful tribute, but the comments on it left me uneasy.
Many people jump in and call the dead person “coward, selfish, and so on..” Well, the person is dead! How did he/she get there? Can we put ourselves in his/her shoes to try to understand what it must have been for him/her? He/she must had gone through the most horrific feelings to end his/her own beating heart!
Maybe all the accusations are correct. Maybe we should just try to understand and deal with our own devastation. In this society, there are many illnesses, and suicidal is one of them. It is a mental disease. Some people are stronger to deal with life, while others can only take so much.
To me, when a person committed suicide, he/she must have come to a dead end with their own feelings, situation and couldn’t handle it anymore! It takes courage and gut to go through this deed, not coward! It is his/her own life, not selfish! I have heard the saying “live your life”, not “live your life for others.” However, when someone exercises his/her rights, they are to blame even after their death.
Yes, it hurts the people who are left behind to deal with this loss, but this is suicidal, not overdosed to be called self-indulgent! I think, as a society, we have more sympathy for celebrities overdosed and mourn their deaths, than we have for a normal person who took his/her life when it is overwhelmed!
If you never have entertaining the thought of suicidal, count your blessings! If you have faced this thought in your darkest moments, and come out on top, congratulation! Let’s not judge other people’s weakness or call them names, but have compassion and understanding. Pray for them!
Many people jump in and call the dead person “coward, selfish, and so on..” Well, the person is dead! How did he/she get there? Can we put ourselves in his/her shoes to try to understand what it must have been for him/her? He/she must had gone through the most horrific feelings to end his/her own beating heart!
Maybe all the accusations are correct. Maybe we should just try to understand and deal with our own devastation. In this society, there are many illnesses, and suicidal is one of them. It is a mental disease. Some people are stronger to deal with life, while others can only take so much.
To me, when a person committed suicide, he/she must have come to a dead end with their own feelings, situation and couldn’t handle it anymore! It takes courage and gut to go through this deed, not coward! It is his/her own life, not selfish! I have heard the saying “live your life”, not “live your life for others.” However, when someone exercises his/her rights, they are to blame even after their death.
Yes, it hurts the people who are left behind to deal with this loss, but this is suicidal, not overdosed to be called self-indulgent! I think, as a society, we have more sympathy for celebrities overdosed and mourn their deaths, than we have for a normal person who took his/her life when it is overwhelmed!
If you never have entertaining the thought of suicidal, count your blessings! If you have faced this thought in your darkest moments, and come out on top, congratulation! Let’s not judge other people’s weakness or call them names, but have compassion and understanding. Pray for them!
10 comments:
Suicide is a powerful issue that stirs up all sorts of emotions, especially for loved ones. People who commit suicide do deserve compassion for not being able to see any other options.
I agree in that we cannot judge unless we have been in that situation. I believe as you, just the opposite in that it takes courage to end your own life. We simply must try and understand and have compassion without judgment for anyone experiencing these feelings.
Suicide is a sad thing. I know that I used to have thoughts like that, but I thought better of it. I understand how people can feel when they are at the end of their rope and want to take their own life. I never judge anyone when they are suicidal. Things must be that bad if they would want to take their own life. I know from experience. BTW, great job on your article. I really enjoyed reading it.
how striking and how true is the description of compassion in the above photo. i am glad for your thoughts and views, agree we should give those who committed suicide still compassion and understanding, it is very hard to judge, i guess, the easy error we humans easily fall into is judging when we always think we are always so right. they were in such a very difficult situation, sadly, like Diane said, they only saw one option, we pray that those who are into the same situation get help as early as they could.
It is a difficult subject to discuss and understand. Those who do end their lives are in pain and leave pain. Either way you look at it, it is a tragic case of events.
Diane,
I agree whole-heartedly! It is a mental disease, and like you said, see no other options!
Jo,
I entertained that suicidal thought while going through some really bad time, but didn't have the courage. So I know, it takes courage and gut!
Mily,
I'm glad you didn't go through with it.
Betchai,
I believe small minded people will judge others since that's their self boosting esteem..
Glynis,
People are all different. Some are stronger to deal with life than others..I like your statement: "Those who do end their lives are in pain and leave pain."
Thank you, Icy. That was really nice of you to say.
You're welcome Mily!
You are right being suicidal is a mental disease and should be treated with all the help that is available. But sometimes they fight the help they need. The Mother of my daughter committed suicide, she had talked about it often, her entire life and finally went through with it. And yes, it does hurt the ones who are left behind very much, very much.
Pete,
I'm sorry for your loss, and for your daughter as well..
Hopefully you and your daughter find peace and comfort soon..
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